I’ll have to ruin the story here and say, NO ONE made Khalil-ur-Rehman a representative of the male community. And whenever he says ‘Hum Mard’ it infuriates me.

Now lets do a recap on what happened on the Samaa TV talk show called, “News Beat With Ehtesham Amir-ud-Din” on the 29th February.

The premise of the show was placed around the petition filed against Aurat March that is to take place on the 8th of March, 2020.

The petition calling for Aurat March 2020 to be stopped was admitted by the Lahore High Court for hearing. While hearing the case, the LHC said that freedom of speech cannot be stopped and then dismissed the petitioner’s claims that the march would promote ‘obscenity’.

The discussion panel of the show included Nayab Jan a local feminist activist, who has made tireless efforts to empower her community by being vocal about several taboo issues and social stigmas that result in marginalizing women and perpetuating stereotypes.

The discussion panel also included popular writer Khalil-ur-Rehman, who is known to have misogynistic opinions about women and has been known for outrightly beating down on the oppressed franchise.

Lastly, the panel also included Yasir Pirzada, a lawyer and Urdu Columnist for Daily Jung who throughout the show supported the Aurat March cause.

The talk show was hosted by Barrister Ehtesham Amir-ud-Din who first introduced the male panelist (because, ofcourse he did) and then introduced the only person that had actual credibility to talk about her community and movement. (In my case, I’d rather start by introducing the component and articulate woman)

The discussion also started off with the two males sharing their opinions about the Aurat March and after a long and agonizing 13 minutes, Nayab Jan was put under the spotlight.

The discussion began with Khalil-ur-Rehman as he condemned the Aurat March and said that it is a disgrace and a shame to our society. He further added that the Aurat March is the reflection of the ‘Ghatiya’ mindset of ‘these women.’

He also represented the male community by saying, “A normal man will never divorce a woman unless he finds her involved in adultery” this comment cracked up the other panelist and Khalil-ur-Rehman felt hurt for being ridiculed (lol). He also expanded his discussion to talking about placards and how they are harming the sanctity of this nation.

But lets pause here for a bit.

Because for someone who had an item song in his last movie, it just doesn’t add up:

Now I’m not saying that item songs are wrong in any way, but all I’m saying is that his stance is pretty hypocritical if his last movie included a song where drunk men were dancing with/and around Neelam Munir. Some might say that is against the sanctity of the Islamic Republic of Pakistan. But some might think otherwise.

He further discussed how he cannot tolerate the Aurat March slogan, “Mera Jism, Meri Marzi.” he said that it’s disgraceful and means shameful things, that he is embarrassed to even say.

He kept on ranting about how Aurat March is a threat to this country and how it will destroy the cultural norms of Pakistan.

Throughout his entire discussion his misogyny was loud and clear as he kept on yelling and aggressively asserting himself on the others.

Now, onto the second man, who quite honestly proved that all men are not exactly the same.

Yes, we are now going to talk about Yasir Pirzada who said that he thinks Aurat March is a way for females to express their problems and should definitely happen on a larger scale.

He ridiculed Khalil-ur-Rehman Qamar when he called the Aurat March disgraceful by saying, “I went to the Aurat March, Khalil Sahab. And tried really hard to find anything that was even remotely disgraceful or shameful, but I didn’t.”

He extended his support by saying that he doesn’t understand why this country hates women so much, its almost as if they can’t tolerate anything they do.

He said that he realizes that as an ‘educated Sunni Male’ he is privileged and a lot of others like him are also privileged but we need to put ourselves in their shoes to see what women have to go through everyday. He said the reason people criticize or beat down on women is because it’s convenient. Even if in a marriage, where a woman works, and earns bread for the family, the man’s monitory income has more value than hers only because she’s a woman.

He said it’s beyond him how the Aurat March is a threat to the norms of society, if anything they might redefine culture to us all.

Now to the show stopper! Nayab Jan who single handedly schooled Khalil-ur-Rehman.

Nayab Jan a local feminist activist opened her discussion by commenting about the civility of the society saying that she thinks that it is not civil to tear posters from walls and vandalize the city. She also added that there is a civil way of showing disagreement and tearing down posters is not it.

She further expanded on talking about Khalil-ur-Rehman’s objection with posters and said why are only controversial posters focused upon, why not focus on the posters that say ‘Don’t rape us’ or that say ‘Don’t honor kill us’

She expanded on this and said, “Our nations norms and sanctity are not affected by rape and honor killing but a poster that says ‘mera jism meri marzi’ deeply damages society”

She then explained the poster aswell, saying that ‘mera jism, meri marzi’ means to not objectify women, to not beat and physically abuse women, and to not rape women.

She said everything is perceived differently by different people and that can never be controlled.

She then said that even as a woman, she feels privileged and feels that she belongs to a far more privileged part of society but she uses that privilege to help the underprivileged women.

She concluded her argument by inviting all three men to the Aurat March and to witness what a peaceful protest feels like. She said that if anything violent happens at the protest, you can come to me. To which Khalil-ur-Rehman said that he will not come to the Aurat March if it is called Aurat March, it needs to be changed. (Which is just a stupid thing to say considering it is on the international women’s day, so lol!)

But God forbid, if he goes, he wants the name changed. And this is exactly why I, and a lot of other men LOATHE Khalil-ur-Rehman Qamar because he is a typical boomer and just plain stupid.

Khalil-ur-Rehman then threatend the panel that he has not yet pulled religion into this, he said that he is an intelligent man (which is not something to flex, but ok) and said do not force him to pull religion into this otherwise everyone will be left speechless.

Throughout the interview it was seen that Khalil-ur-Rehman was talking over Nayab Jan and was loud to the extent that even Yasir Pirzada at one point told him to calm down.

Although after all this the Aurat March is still happening and most people are still going, this Khalil-ur-Rehman attitude is the attitude of a lot of privileged men. Talking over women, mansplaining and suppressing their voice is something that happens to women on a daily basis. Let’s hope that with time, we can eradicate people like Khalil-ur-Rehman and perhaps settle for people like Yasir Pirzada.

Here’s the complete talk show episode:


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