Does Shahid Kapoor’s assertion that women should be responsible for fixing men in marriage hold any truth, or is he still influenced by his role as “Kabir Singh” ? In our modern society, it is important to critically question traditional gender roles and expectations. One such expectation is the assumption that “wives should bear the responsibility for their husbands’ shortcomings and mistakes.” Are wives really responsible for their messed-up husbands? This extremely hard-core belief eternalizes an unfair burden on women and damages their mechanism. Aurat apna sab chor kar dusre ghar jaati hai, we’ve seen this, always, as this is the tradition. And after that huge sacrifice, a woman is expected to fix the messed up husband too. Why? Why does society expect a woman to do so, why can’t men do that themselves? We all are independent individuals in this world, right? When will men learn to fix themselves independently, When will men learn to fix their unacceptable habits, their raging behavior, their misogyny, and their abusive treatment towards women? According to Hindustan Times, Shahid Kapoor stated a controversial remark about marriage in a recent interview with Film Companion. Kapoor, who has been married to Mira Rajput since 2015, suggested that women enter a man’s life with the intention of “fixing” him. Let’s not forget that Kapoor married her when she was just 20 and he was 34. Did his wife really “fix” him when he was a grown man even though he was older and was responsible for his behaviors? When questioned about his views on marriage, Kapoor stated:
The essence of marriage is that a guy is messed up, and a woman comes into his life to fix him. Subsequently, his journey is all about being fixed and transforming into a decent person. Essentially, that’s what life is all about.
So is that the reason moms are marrying their sons off to sati savitri bahus who can fix their sons as the mothers failed to do so? It is unjust and unrealistic to place the responsibility of “fixing” a partner solely on women within a marriage. A healthy and successful marital relationship should be founded on equality, mutual support, and personal growth for both individuals. It is not a woman’s inherent responsibility to nurse or repair a grown man. One user expressed their opinion, stating:
Many people find it cliché and unromantic to expect a girl to fix a ‘broken’ guy. Such a tired trope.
Another user called Kapoor out for embodying a character he portrayed, saying:
I understand you played Kabir Singh, but you don’t have to continue behaving like that.
When a woman is messed-up, or had a traumatic childhood, or doesn’t know how to cook well as she was a career-oriented woman, the susral walay end up saying that:
larki ko maa ne kuch nai sikhaya !
And they expect her to get better at the housework. Similarly, when a man is messed up, why isn’t he expected to get better and fix himself independently.
Uskay liye bahu lanay ki zarurat kuin parhti hai?
Why is the woman being expected or being told to fix the husband? Blaming wives alone for their husbands’ actions is rooted in gender stereotypes, which relegate women to submissive roles focused on maintaining the household and catering to their husbands. This viewpoint ignores the freedom and independence of both partners in a marriage. It’s crucial to recognize that individuals are responsible for their own choices and actions, regardless of their marital status. The expectation that wives should be responsible for their messed-up husbands is an outdated and unjust concept that perpetuates gender inequality and restricts personal growth. Marriages should be based on shared responsibility, mutual support, and open communication. It is time to challenge these gender stereotypes and promote an equitable understanding of responsibility within marriages.